My Thoughts…

Why is the divorce rate going higher and higher each day? Is matrimony taken seriously as it is or it is just a trend? Are we trying to compete with Hollywood on who married the most time? For me marriage is for a lifetime. It is where 2 people who wants to share their rest of their life together are united as one. That is my understanding of marriage.

Then what is love? Is it just a chemistry feeling for each other or there is more for everlasting love. Researchs have say that the feeling of love comes out from our own hormones that generates that feeling in us. What we see on shows and movies where there is a spark between two people can be true. But is that enough to maintain a relationship till death do we part?

We can just say we love our partner, but how true it is? When we first see the girl/guy we like, we say it is love. When that doesn’t work out and you found another, you would say that the previous wasn’t love but this one is only love. If this one also doesn’t turn out good, you would say not love again. This cycle continues till don’t know when. How do we know we are in love if we keep saying the previous wasn’t love? I can say each relationship there is love but how to keep that fire burning is the problem.

I have seen some of my friends who face some problems in their relationship. Instead of solving them, some decide to walk out of the relationship for it stress them out to overcome the problem. If that person is serious about it, i have no doubt that both parties would sit down and make it work. In a relationship there isn’t any place for manhood or their egoness and for girls, over demanding and want to be in control of everything. It is a give and take thing. Both parties would benefit from it.

Most of you would think what the hell i know bout love for my status is single. Who cares if I never dated anyone before. Seeing how my friends go in and out of a relationship just don’t make me want to be part of it. Reason one - I’m not ready to be control by another person, reason 2 - I don’t want to overstress myself worring on another party when I don’t have enough time for myself and reason 3 - If I ever start one, I would hope it will last. That is one that is hard to achieve in this society but no harm hoping
I myself still wonder what is love and how does the old couples who are match-made when they are young can stay with their spouse till old? Love isn’t just all that is needed in a relationship. There must be communication, caring, friendship, understanding, forgiveness and lots more. It isn’t bout the chemistry only. It is to build a fire within that would burn continously through the years. For me, I want not only the feel of love but for someone to care for me, and take me as me. I in the other hand want to be confortable with him, accept him as him and not ask him to change. Part of loving is to accept the person as who he/she is no matter it is good or bad. Start to love the bad side of him. But if the bad is totally bad and would affect the future, then that have to change. It all depends on what it is. Example, if he beats you up, I don’t expect you to love that part of him but if you love him, help him to get the aggressiveness out of his system. If not you have to just let him go.

There were some people that I have fallen for and I really enjoy and cherish the time shared together. But I don’t know if it is worth waiting for them. Like the phrase from Cinderella Story, “Waiting for you is like waiting for it to rain in this drought. Hopeless and Useless.”

I wonder if there is anyone that is dating a girl/guy who they have lost the feelings but just holding on for fear that they can’t find another? Is there anyone that is dating a girl/guy where they don’t feel the flame anymore but do so for their parents love her/him? Is it important to have your parents approval of that person? I know it is but I believe if you really love that person, your parents would understand eventually and allow you to be together. Not everyone is lucky to have in-laws loving them but eventually things change as time goes by. Time plays an important role for through time, all things are made better.

“Never let the fear of striking out keep you from the game.” This is another quote I read and found it meaningful. If I want something done or to achieve something, I have to work for it and not be demotivated by any obstacles or the fear of what is ahead. Our greatest enemy is our very own self and not anyone else. Sometimes telling off others bout their bad attitude is actually reflecting on our very own attitude also. We are scare to admit it but it is always easier to say it to others.

Love does wonders most of the time but it is all dying out. We think we understand what love is. Love is all bout happiness and everything goes smoothly. In reality, nothing comes easy. Love is when you manage to overcome each obstacles that comes along the way. That is how your love grows. Love is when there is happiness and sadness, down to earth and craziness, lonelyness and togetherness, forgiveness and lots more. It is just the things that happen that make you appreciate the other more each day. Where two people work together as one. For this, each have to give and take and not one give and the other take all the time. There is balance and equality in everything.

I believe that someday my prince will come. It could be someone in the past it could be someone future. I would not know but i believe God has made a way for me. When the person appear I would know for I’m going to be truthful and not hide. I hope that the person himself would do the same. Decide it on what he wants and not due to his parents wishes nor try me out before breaking up with the initail girlfriend. You have to let go for better ones to come. If you always insist that the current one is good and can’t find a better one, think twice. Ask yourself truthfully, do you want to be with her? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with her? If not please don’t play her feelings out.

Love is something we can’t explain and it is where no one knows who is in the right and wrong. We just have to accept it. “If it is yours, it would always be yours no matter what!”, “If it isn’t yours, no matter how you keep it, you wouldn’t own it at all!” It is always better one suffer than to have all the parties involved suffer.

What has happen the young generation thinking? All they ever expect is to be spoon feed to the maximum. Why can’t they be independent? It is sad to see this type of people in this society. Is it that they are pampered at home where everything comes easily that they just don’t work hard to achieve something new or maintain them? Is it that our parents ardship which lead them to better life now affect them that what they want all comes easily?

I have been in primary and secondary school like many others and the teachers care bout the students performance. This is due to publicity. If the school have high achievers, there would be a lot of people that want to enrol their children in that school. To achieve that aim, the teachers actually spoon feed all the students. Teach them what they need to know to score in the exam. Do they really understand and put full use to them they don’t really care. As long they pass the knowledge, they are said to have done their job.

In university life, all are different. We don’t expect the lecturers to treat us the way as the school teachers did. “Every student has the right to fail.” This is a quote from a lecturer. I think it is true. Everyone do have the choice to fail but students have the right to pass with flying colours also. It is up to the individual. The lecturers would teach you what you need to know. The others are up to your own interest. If you want a better understanding, you have to find your own materials. If you have problem to understand them, the lecturers are ready to help. If you have the interest to know more and have the fighting spirit to do well, the lecturers would answer your questions with a smile. It make them feel happy that they are students that is interested in the subject. At this stage, it is more on self study. The lectuers only give us pointer or guide line on what we are to know. It is up to us if we want to do well or just fail.

I find a person very or extremely irresponsible if he/she only rely on the lecturers to spoon feed them. On the other hand, they go out and have fun playing online games or other sort of entertainment. They would skip class and enjoy life outside. Once exam is near, they still don’t bother much. They would always have someone who is their slave that would allow them to photocopy their notes. Last minute only study for the exam. If don’t understand the notes, would call that person and ask for help. Isn’t this disturbing others who want to revise other things? Isn’t this irresponsible? A person who can’t even set their priorities right? How can you depend on others to help you pass? Would you be consider a good worker when you graduate?

Once working and this attitude continues, I think they are just garbage to society. They make no differences from those that waste time or drug addicts. Sorry to say that but it is true. All this are horrible attitude. A shame to society. What more, say we are to lead the country one day. If a person is so spoon feed, industrial training also need people to ask you to go to company to gain experience is it? Sit at home and wait for a company to call you to work while you are looking for a job? All this are bullshit type of human mentality. If you want to be spoon feed till you work, why not just sit at home and rott. Imagine you work in a company and your boss want you to do some work. You expect the boss to do like everything for you? Why you work there without pay? The boss pay you to help him do work but instead he is doing your work also. So why should he pay you when he is doing all the work? Just sack you. Like what Donald Trump say,”You are FIRED!” There is another quote from him,” I want to hire someone that CAN HELP me RUN MY ORGANIZATION.” In Apprentice, you can see all the task that they are assign, he would highlight things he WON’T WANT TO SEE and what he thinks would TEAR DOWN his organization.

What has our new generation come to. All break down due to pressure. Why are they so many people fired? It isn’t due to retreancement only. Company has to cut down workers for they have not enough money to pay all. So who do they fired first? The one that don’t help the organization but create problems first. Those that do their work constantly and know what is to expect of them are the one that are saved. They are the hard one to let go in the organization. Those that don’t do their work nicely would feel like not fair. We have to view it this way. Those that can help the organization will stay, those extras would have to go. But some of this people have narrow thinking. They are not happy. Sometimes due to this pressure, they do things that are negative. Like some turn to the black market stuff. Some would then play shares to get more profits. That is what is happening to this society.

It is so sad to see how the people are all thinking now. All so narrow minded and only like to assume and not think more deeply. Is this how we are taught in schools? Can we say that we are so spoon feed that we can’t think clearly on this matter on our own. We can’t be so selfish and always think of ourselves. We live in a society that we need each others help. We have created an environment where we are scare to help for being taken advantage of or being harmed. We have to be more ground to earth and connect with people around us. We have to cooperate and care for one another. This is how to create harmony. Malaysia is looked up for all races can live in harmony in one country. We mustn’t destroy this harmony but keep it. We are also known for being friendly and always smiling. I don’t see this anymore. What i see and read daily is violence happening. It breaks my heart to read it. Can we put aside our difference and unite for a better future.

“Forgive and Forget!” “Forgiveness is the most beautiful thing a person can do.” This are a few things i believe in. It is never easy to forgive. But find it deep down in your heart, the softer part to forgive those that have hurt you and have cause you hurt. Once done, you feel peaceful and a burden lifted up. Why do we want to carry the burden of hatred with us. It only kill us. It only cause misery. Let it go and you can find peace with yourself. Forgiveness is the hardest thing a person can do. But by forgiving, there are more better things install for you. It doesn’t mean that you have to forget after you have forgive a person. You can remember but throw that burden you carry by forgiving. Why keep that hatred in us. We are all innocent. No one deserves it. No matter how angry you are, just forgive. It doesn’t mean that once forgive you can pretend nothing happen. Time will heal all those pain in you and time would help you overcome it. Hatred would only kill you, take away all you happiness. Let go and be free of it and you will feel peace. Have faith in God for He will help you through.

Have you ever ask yourself who you are? Do you know what you are doing? Do you know where you are heading? There are some of us that feel lost. We are not sure what we are doing but just following the crowd. We don’t have our own stand in opinion. What that person say, we just follow without much thinking as long it benefits us also. Like a part in Stars War Episode III, there is a part when all the Jedis’ were killed, something like independance was declare where freedom would be given to everyone. Does that sound familier? Does it ring a bell in our head?

I as a young adult, I won’t deny that as long there is something that benefits me without putting effort, who won’t want. As long it benefits us, why must we think so much. That is how the thinking mind is like in this society. I fear that when it is our time to lead the country, it wouldn’t be the same as it is now. We would jump to conclucion fast and act according to our emotions. That is the danger. If we let our emotion to take over, many unforseen things can happen. Mostly bad things happen more. I’m not saying that we should be emotionalless but we must have control of it. If we let our emotion overpower us, for example, you let your anger empower you, then your anger rise as things don’t come the way you want it, you let your anger keep building up till the breaking point. Lets say an innocent person accidentally knock your car when you were driving home, you might let that blur your judgement and you let out your anger at that person and who knows if that person is also stress out, you start an arguement there. In that arguement, both of you have this anger in you, how sure of you that you wouldn’t hurt or worst killed the other person? It is always after that only we realise and regret. Isn’t that too late?

All this comes back to one issue. Patiences. Look at our Prime Minister. He lead the country with Patiences and Deep Thoughts to make the country a better place and in path with the new technology world. He is a role modal for us to follow. We young people only want things to come easily for we are so used to be spoon feed that we don’t know what to do when left alone. Why is there so many people roaming around the streets doing nothing. They are wasting precious time and just think that good thinks would just come without putting any effort. If it doesn’t come the way they think, they would complain and blame everyone and say that they are not taken care of. Worst, they think the people went against them and would then go to the wrong way for that way, everything comes easily and it is easy to be involve but hard to get out of it. Like Anakin Skywalker. He was a good Jedi. Why did he went to the bad side? Things didn’t go the way he wants it, he can’t get what he wants, make his own assumption and let the evil reprogram his thinking. He let the fact that the dark side can give him more and can make him powerful. Aren’t this what is happening to this society also. Who actually feel hurt in the end? Your love ones would feel it just as much as yourself.

we should take time and think about this. Some of us don’t seem to find our way for we refuse to acknowledge God. Why did Tsunami happened? Isn’t it God’s call? We have been too busy fighting among ourselves and we forgot bout those that really need our help. Wasn’t it amazing how it brought country who are like at war to forget bout their difference to cooperate and help the victims? But must it be this way to make us realise? Thousands of lifes were lost just to make us realise this? God made us not to fight among ourselves but to love and care for one another. We are all the same. The difference is maybe our color, our religion, our mind set, our language but we are the same. We are all made by God and He loves us all equally.

I believe that He send an angel to be by our side at all time. It is us that didn’t realise it. There are some of us who even just push them away without realising. When we escape from harm or any misfortune, we say we are lucky but little did we know that God was there to save us and protect us from evil? I believe if we ask Him, He would answer our prayers according to what is good for us and not to everything we ask for. Like the movie Bruce Almighty. It shows what God does for us. All we ask for are all filed up. There are things we ask can’t be given for it isn’t the right time. Everything that happen to us daily is a blessing. We must appreciate instead of complaining all the time and comparing with others. We are all unique in our own way. But why is it easy to blame God when bad things happen? It is us that refuse to ask Him for help. It is us who turn away from Him. We can’t blame Him at all. If bad things happen, it could be for our own good in future. It is also for better things to happen in future. No matter how we turn away from God, He would NEVER turn a deaf ears to our call.

We can’t rely everything to God. We have to work to achieve what we want. If we work for it, He will help us. If He didn’t, it means it isn’t what we are to be or it isn’t the right time still. But once the time is right, you can see good things just coming your way. But there would be hardship to make us stronger. We can say we are strong but He knows us better. Always have faith in Him and you can see a difference and feel the difference.

“No one can affect or control our emotion unless we allow others to do so.”

“Be who you are and be proud of who you are!”

When I wake up this morning, this thought came into my mind? What has the world come to? It is like there isn’t any humanity in us anymore. Ever so often we talk bout the end of the world is coming. Little do we know that we are the one that is making this fact into reality.

Just think back. When was the last time we talk to our neighbours? Or how long do we put aside to spend quality time with our family. Going out shopping is not an option. Quality time is to know what is happening among your family members. We always say we put family first before anything else but we are actually blinded. We put money and carrier first. We always say that without money, we can’t provide a good family environment. In this society, money always come first. We can deny it but we can’t hide it. Money is not everything but in this modern society, once you have money, everything is possible. But are you happy? When would you say you have enough?

Quote from Star Wars Episode III : Return of the Sith, “We mustn’t be afraid to lose”. If we are so scare to lose something, we let the dark side enpower us. Isn’t this true? As said in Reader Digest somewhere end or last year, it was said that we believe Hollywood play a part in predicting the future. There were so many movies on terrorist and it was bout similar the way it happen. Or bout global warming? Do we want to wait for it to happen only regret or we play a part to prevent this from happening?

All this are in our own mind set. There are a lot of people with kindness in their heart but being taken advantage of. This will either lead to hardening their hearts and not be kind or they just continue to be kind but being taken advantage of or sometimes bad things happen. Easy example, road rage. I haven’t heard of anything more depressing than this. When I was young I know this happen but not to this extend and frequent. All this can be avoided but why wasn’t it? It is from our individual self. We can’t control our emotion in this fast pace society. Why are we so work out easily? Is it alright to release it on things or people we don’t know. Is it worth it to be angry with a driver that cut queeue and you go and injure that person. Even that person is wrong, why are we so work out? Why do we have this thinking that if that person does that, we can do it also? If we just simply follow and not think, why do we have brains and why do we go school? Why is Moral education so important then? Just think, if you don’t like others to do that to you, why do you do it to others?

This is all on our own mind set. We care too much bout ourselves that we forgot about others. “No man can survive on an island”. How are we to live with our own and survive. Somehow we need help from others. Why do we isolate ourselves? “Sharing is caring”. Why are we so scare to share. Why are we scare for others seing better than us? We can never always stay at the top. One day we would fall also but we must know we give our best and done our best. Know where your standards are. If you know you can’t do it, why do you still want to force yourself? Forcing would create stress and you would be easily irritated if things don’t go your way. Know how much you can do and take. Don’t take unnecessary loads just to impress your boss or to get a pay raise faster. It isn’t worth it.

We must always remember to love ourselves. How? Not by being completely selfish but think of others too. We are consider very lucky and fortunate compare to many others. Never think that you are unlucky for out there in this world there are others who are more unlucky. If you keep thinking that you are unlucky, you would never be satisfied with what is in front of you.Never ask for too much also.

Another thing that we lack is FAITH. Do we have a strong faith in God? We can go to church every Sunday or pray 7 times a day but do you have a strong faith? It isn’t that you pray all the time or go to church is faithful. All this have to be from the heart and not doing it for you have to. If we have faith in God, we would work hard for a better future and not push too hard for we know God has made a way for us. When the time is right, it will all come to you. Why do we want to blame God if we don’t get something we want? There is always a reason for things to happen and not to happen.

We are also lack of patience. Why can’t we wait. Why are we always in a hurry. I know that time flies but if we plan well i don’t see why have to rush. If we rush, we find everything is not coming your way. Is it when we are really ill that we would stop to rest? Isn’t that too late?

Why not we take time off and slow down. Think back and see if this is true

Why it is called tug of war when all you do is pull a rope? If lucky your team strength and your opponent strength are the same. If unlucky, your opponent is stronger then better luck next time. When that happen, can I have the tree as my anchor? I don’t want to fly to the opposite side

I just went for the game for fun. Little did I know the size of the opponents. They were all double and triple my size (-_-") Even when I try to pull, I think I was drag to the opposite side more. I was like flying to the opponents side. But I was unlucky for I got injured. Ahahahaha… It is only a bit and the common one. Sometimes after we let go the rope, there would be someone still holding when you lose balance. I fell and let go the rope but the rope rub against my skin. Ouch… yup. Skin burn and I still have the bruises on my arm now. If there is anyone that see it, they would think I pick a fight and got beaten, Muahahahaha…

It was a good experience but I wish that I can have the tree on my team. Then at least won’t go flying hehehe. Can we rename the game to "Pull a Bull". It is as tough as that but the opponents are much stronger. You should see them pulling so easily and not all are pulling and some were like using one hand. Ouch (-_-")