My Thoughts…

Normally we see the bad of a person more than the good. We remember the bad more than the good. How come? I did ask myself but I can’t really find the answer. It is always easy to overlook the good and keep vengence on the bad things. Its weird right? Normally we would want to remember the good but it seems the bad is easier.

I remember a friend told me that it is always easy to remember the bad and keep vengence on the bad. My friend ask me to try to see the good point in the person instead. You would find that there might be more good points bout that person than bad? It’s up to us actually. I think we just take the good for granted that is why we can overlook the good points. There isn’t a person with only all bad points or good points that exist. Each of us have our good and bad points. We have to accept it for that represent who we are. But if the bad points we have are not helping us to move forward, we have to improve on it. We can change to better ourselves but don’t change to impress others for it never work I think. Just be ourselves is the best.

Next time when a person treat us bad, maybe take some time to think of the good the person did. I don’t think we would be at lost. Unless the person take advantage of this, I don’t know what to do. It might seem like we are the one at lost but I think they are the one at lost. If it happen to me, even if I’m taken for granted and I’m at the losing end, I’m still me trying to be kind and be positive. In the end, the one who take me for granted would be the one at lost. Maybe the effect can’t be seen immediate but eventually they are the one that suffer and not us. Sharing is caring. There isn’t a measurement that show you care too much or care too little. It is up to each individual.

One rainy afternoon I was driving along one of the main streets of town, taking those extra precautions necessary when the roads are wet and slick. Suddenly, my daughter, Aspen, spoke up from her relaxed position in her seat. “Dad, I’m thinking of something.”

This announcement usually meant she had been Pondering some fact for a while, and was now ready to expound all that her Six-year-old mind had discovered. I was eager to hear. “What are you thinking?” I asked.

The rain;” she began, “is like sin, and the windshield wipers are like God wiping our sins away..” After the chill bumps raced up my arms I was able to respond. “That’s really good, Aspen.” Then my curiosity broke in. How far would this Little girl take this revelation?

So I asked… “Do you notice how the rain keeps on coming? What does that tell you?” Aspen didn’t hesitate one moment with her answer: “We keep on sinning, and God just keeps on forgiving us.” I will always remember this whenever I turn my wipers on. Isn’t it distressing to know that when you forward this message you will not send it to many on your address list because you’re not sure what they believe, or what they will think of you for sending it to them. Funny how I can be more worried about what other people think of me than what God thinks of me.

Are you thinking? Are you going to send it to two people? Are you Going to send it at all? Or, are you just going to delete this very profound message? In order to see the rainbow, you must first endure some rain.

Doesn’t this show how much we take God for granted. We keep sinning and not realizing it and God keep forgiving us. Just because the Bible state that God would forgive us, but isn’t it taking God for granted for we keep repeating the same sin? We never learn from them. Is this how we are to follow His ways? How is it that we are said to follow His footsteps? How can we say we have faith in Him when we blame Him if anything bad happen? But I believe that all bad that happens are meant to make us stronger and a better person. Everyone need to fall at times to realize for we are all too busy for God that the only way He can get our attention is to put us in trial. In this world, if we compare among ourselves, neither one of us is perfect but we are all perfect in His eyes for He created us and mould us to be who we are where we are perfect in our own ways ^o^

Found this in one of my old forwarded emails and find it interesting…Haha…Just for fun =)

English - I love you
Afrikaans - Ek het jou lief
Albanian - Te dua
Arabic - Ana behibak (to male)
Arabic - Ana behibek (to female)
Armenian - Yes kez sirumen
Bambara - M’bi fe
Bangla - Aamee tuma ke bhalo aashi
Belarusian - Ya tabe kahayu
Bisaya - Nahigugma ako kanimo
Bulgarian - Obicham te
Cambodian - Soro lahn nhee ah
Cantonese Chinese - Ngo oiy ney a
Catalan - T’estimo
Cheyenne - Ne mohotatse
Chichewa - Ndimakukonda
Corsican - Ti tengu caru (to male)
Creol - Mi aime jou
Croatian - Volim te
Czech - Miluji te
Danish - Jeg Elsker Dig
Dutch - Ik hou van jou
Esperanto - Mi amas vin
Estonian - Ma armastan sind
Ethiopian - Afgreki’
Faroese - Eg elski teg
Farsi - Doset daram
Filipi no - Mahal kita
Finnish - Mina rakastan sinua
French - Je t’aime, Je t’adore
Gaelic - Ta gra agam ort
Georgian - Mikvarhar
German - Ich liebe dich
Greek - S’agapo
Gujarati - Hoo thunay prem karoo choo
Hiligaynon - Palangga ko ikaw
Hawaiian - Aloha wau ia oi
Hebrew - Ani ohev otah (to female)
Hebrew - Ani ohev et otha (to male)
Hiligaynon - Guina higugma ko ikaw
Hindi - Hum Tumhe Pyar Karte hae
Hmong - Kuv hlub koj
Hopi - Nu’ umi unangwa’ta
Hungarian - Szeretlek
Icelandic - Eg elska tig
Ilonggo - Palangga ko ikaw
Indonesian - Saya cinta padamu
Inuit - Negligevapse
Irish - Taim i’ ngra leat
Italian - Ti amo
Japanese - Aishiteru
Kannada - Naanu ninna preetisuttene
Kapampangan - Kaluguran daka
Kiswahili - Nakupenda
Konkani - Tu magel moga cho
Korean - Sarang Heyo
Latin - Te amo
Latvian - Es tevi miilu
Lebanese - Bahibak
Lithuanian - Tave myliu
Malay - Saya cintakan mu / Aku cinta padamu
Malayalam - Njan Ninne Premikunnu
Mandarin Chinese - Wo ai ni
Marathi - Me tula prem karto
Mohawk - Kanbhik
Moroccan - Ana moajaba bik
Nahuatl - Ni mits neki
Navaho - Ayor anosh’ni
Norwegian - Jeg Elsker Deg
Pandacan - Syota na kita!!
Pangasinan - Inaru Taka
Papiamento - Mi ta stimabo
Persian - Doo-set daaram
Pig Latin - Iay ovlay ouyay
Polish - Kocham Ciebie
Portuguese - Eu te amo
Romanian - Te ubesk
Russian - Ya tebya liubliu
Scot Gaelic - Tha gra\dh agam ort
Serbian - Volim te
Setswana - Ke a go rata
Sign Language - ,\,,/ (represents position of fingers when signing’I Love You’)
Sindhi - Maa tokhe pyar kendo ahyan
Sioux - Techihhila
Slovak - Lu`bim ta
Slovenian - Ljubim te
Spanish - Te quiero / Te amo
Swahili - Ninapenda wewe
Swedish - Jag alskar dig
Swiss-German - Ich lieb Di
Tagalog - Mahal kita
Taiwanese - Wa ga ei li
Tahitian - Ua Here Vau Ia Oe
Tamil - Nan unnai kathalikaraen
Telugu - Nenu ninnu premistunnanu
Thai - Chan rak khun (to male)
Thai - Phom rak khun (to female)
Turkish - Seni Seviyorum
Ukrainian - Ya tebe kahayu
Urdu - mai aap say pyaar karta hoo
Vietnamese - Anh ye^u em (to female)
Vietnamese - Em ye^u anh (to male)
Welsh - ‘Rwy’n dy garu
Yiddish - Ikh hob dikh
Yoruba - Mo ni fe

I receive a forwarded email regarding this new sport in Norway and Canada. It seems that hunting has taken a different direction and now they hunt seals too. Why? If they kill the old seals maybe it is ok since they have live a life but killing the baby seals isn’t it too much? Why are they killing the seals? For their meat? But they did no harm to us and they so not threathen the life cycle. Too many of them won’t make a difference for they would become food to other animals in the cold climate area like the bears or whales or wolves. What did they do that they start this new sport?

If you are incharge of an event, isn’t it your duty to inform the people if there are any changes? There is this workshop that an activities chairperson is in charge. There is some changes to the date and you write to inform those who are to attend the event. There are a few people who you do not have their email or contact. You send to the person in charge the contact and email. Are you suppose to tell the friend to confirm with the person in charge or the one in charge who already have the contact? I did my part and inform my friend whose name was on the list of no email nor contact number. But she still need an email from the one incharge regarding this matter if not I could be considered giving wrong information. The original email stating the changes still have to be send to her. Is it my job or the organizer?

I find her management a problem. No offense but arranging all events in the second semester? First semester where the term seems longer, no events organise. Second semester, have to prepare for Ball, then put in Sports Carnival and another Street Fair or something like that. All these are big events that need planning and budget. How is she to manage? I don’t know. It might end up the Ball would be fine but the other 2 left not done. Wonder how come the students vote her to be activities chairperson? How do we vote for our student council? Because they are friends and promise benefits or through their capabilities? Seems like the need to have power and to be popular is still there.

Hmm…It amaze me to know how many selfish people there are in this world. But there are some who are extreme that I was amaze to hear. My aunt was telling me stories bout her friends who are selfish and how their wivies suffer. When I hear bout it, I so wonder how come there could be people like that.

One of the cases, the husband and wife are my aunt’s friend. The wife is older than the husband by 7 years. They were happy when dating but once married, everything change. The husband live on his wife earnings and don’t do anything. He take the money and play snooker or cards. Love to show off and show that he is well off. He works but when he doesn’t like the job, he just quit and not think of his wife nor family. They have 2 kids now. When he get bored, he tell the wife and ask the wife to plan and pay for a holiday trip. Unfortunately, I think the guy married her for her wealth for her family is rich. The wife works in a company as a secretary and work part time jobs to make ends meet. She even bought over a soya bean business and let her husband do. But then, the husband just disappear suddenly. It seems that he is the guranter for his brother who took a bank loan to get a car. The brother didn’t pay the loan and ran off with the car. The bank want to declare the brother bankrupcy. If brother not found, he is the one who take responsibility. Unfortunately, the wife bought some properties and place it under his name.

It seems that they have sold off one car. So the husband take the wife’s car and use. When he is to pick her up, there are times when she can’t go down immediately for she has to shut down the computer, put her work aside or sometimes boss talking to her, he would throw a fit. They have 2 kids but he take no responsibility of them. They are to show others that he has children also. If the kids disturb their father, he would throw a fit at them till they are scare of their own father. It seems the wife want to leave him but take the kids with her. The husband know he can’t have the kids and told the wife, he knows legally he can’t get the kids. If he can’t have the kids, she can’t have them also. He would kill the 2 kids.

How selfish can he be. Killing his own flesh and blood? This is the most extreme case where all the guy care about is himself. It seems that he too look for other women outside but the wife has to obey him and do things according to him. He say he is going out, she has to leave whatever she is doing and go back to see the kids. Even it means she loses some business at her part time job.

It is surprising to know that there are a lot of people who are like that. Not to say males but females also. They are dangerous to be with. To friends they are different. They can treat friends nicely but not the one they love or the one who they are to spend the rest of their life with. Family means nothing to them but to them, themself is the most important thing and nothing else. No one can change them and they are hard to change. They could be anyone. Could be our friends who we hang out with often. We can say we know a person well but sometimes we could be deceived. All of us put on an act in front of others to gain friends and no one would show their true color. Unless he/she is careless and it is known by others. But hard to tell also. All these actors are good in acting and gain liking from others but are they happy or they suffer without realizing it? I can say I met some and was hurt by them also. Thought no one like this exist but I was wrong. They don’t need to be pointed out but one day, people would know also. As a saying say, “No matter what secret there is, one day it would be out also.” So if we cover our bad part, one day people would discover them. Just be ourselves. True friends would accept your good and your bad.

* the biggest motivation is salary

* the unluckiest thing is promotion without salary adjustment

* the most “shiok” thing is you don’t work anyhow also get pay increment

* the greatest talent is “carry big stuff”

* the greatest mistake is to argue with your boss

* the most demoralising thing is to receive salary late

* the most pitiful thing is you did not get your salary and your boss ran away

* the happiest thing is you become your boss’ boss

* the cleverest thing is you are late but boss doesn’t know

* the stupidest thing is you publicly say that you are lazy

* the most common thing is - the boss says something but means another

* the proudest thing is you sack your boss

* the most “rugi” thing is you work hard but your colleague takes the credit

* the most dangerous thing is to become a “two-headed” snake

* the biggest satisfaction - sending e-mail like this during office hours!! heheheheheheheh….

In an email forwarded from Louisa. It tells a story bout a little girl Dana who was born very prematured and doctors don’t believe she would lead a normal life nor even survive. But miracle happen and she survive and live like a normal child. During those time she endure when she was prematured, she was hugged by God for she was too sensitive towards human’s touch. God was there with her to give her strength to survive.

It is a beautiful story. God is always with us and He would always hold us close no matter when, where or how. He is always there for us but we always take Him for granted. I remember the story “The Brick” where a small boy have to throw a brick to get other people’s attention. God is asking us to slow down and see what is happening around us. We can’t be too self centered and selfish and ignore what is happening around us. When we are selfish and ignore what is happenign around us, we are hurting people around us without knowing. It could be people we know or strangers.

It could be we are now more money orientated and power orientated where we are only chasing for wealth and power. But is it that important to prove we are better than others? Sharing is caring. As I was talking to a friend, Woon Shen the other day, it seems the riches person isn’t a person who owns everything but because he knows how to save, he is therefore rich. We do not need to show off our wealth for we are all wealthy but how we spend the money makes us poor. Those that spend wisely. most likely can be called wealthy for they only spend on what is necessary. Those that earn more and spend more, how can we say they are rich?

I realise we have grown to be selfish and only care for ourselves first. Till the extreme that the young generation is caught in between this. We want to show we are better and we can afford more things than others but we forgot ourselves and involve innocent young in it. This might influence them in the wrong direction or maybe good no one knows. But the pressure placed on them is so much that we might be teaching them to be rebelious. Some might mature and go the right way and some would just stay that way. Is this what we want to see in future?

I can see it happening among people my age. There is nothing more important than themselves and do what they have to reach their aim. They do not bother if it is going to hurt others. There is a minority who actually fall and realise this and change. But there are still a big amount of people out there who still think this way. I know there are times we need to be selfish for our good but there are times when we have to put that aside. It isn’t a crime to pamper ourselves once a while but there are times when we have to care for others too.

We always think we are pitier than others but we never think how lucky we are. Why look at the bad when there are so many good things around us? Why compete who is pitier or luckier. We are all the same but there are some who are worst than us but do not show it for they have a positive outlook in life. We are all different so the experiences we face are all different and can’t be rated the same. Never think we are pitier than others for there are some who are suffering on the other side of the planet but still call themselves lucky for they are still alive.

God is here to guide us. He isn’t going to tell us how to life our lifes but He is here to guide us with His teaching to be a better person. To improve ourselves to serve everyone. He may have plan our path but we are to work hard to choose the path we want to follow. He has made a lot of cross-section for us to choose and we are to choose wisely. I believe even we choose the wrong path, eventually there is a path He prepared that lead us back to the right path. Our destiny is within our hands and God is there to help us along our path. It can be a rough and winding path but He would be there like always to protect us and be with us.

1. It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return, But what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel.

2. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.

3. The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch swing with, never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you’ve ever had.

4. It’s true that we don’t know what we’ve got until we lose it, but it’s also true that we don’t know what we’ve been missing until it arrives.

5. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone-but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.

6. Don’t go for looks; they can deceive. Don’t go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright.

7. Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do.

8. Always put yourself in the other’s shoes. If you feel that it hurts you,it probably hurts the person too.

9. A careless word may kindle strife; a cruel word may wreck a life; a timely word may level stress; a loving word may heal and bless.

10. The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

11. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with a tear. When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die, you’re the one smiling and everyone around you is crying.

This is taken from and email by Su Ann ^o^

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, “How do I know if I married the right person?”

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, “It depends. Is that your husband?”

In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?”

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind.

Here’s the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love… because it’s happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.” Think about the imagery of that _expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling is love is easy. It’s a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It’s the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It’ll NEVER just happen to you. You can’t “find” LASTING love. You have to “make” it day in and day out. That’s why we have the _expression “the labor of love.” Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It’s a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable… you can “make” love.

Love in marriage is indeed a “decision”… not just a feeling.